On my website I brand myself as a wife, mother, therapist and a business owner. Many times I am wearing all four hats simultaneously!
Yes, I am a mother of three girls; I am married to wonderful husband who plays an active role around the house and with our children, but he also travels a ton for work! It is more common than not for him to be gone every evening and both days of the weekend. Rather than seeing this as a barrier to building a successful business, I embrace the opportunity to demonstrate how it’s possible to parent and be a entrepreneur!
Now please know, the marriage of entrepreneurship and parenting is exactly that: a marriage. There are days where the two compliment each other, to the point where they amplify each other. The girls are proud of “the business” and imagine themselves as passionate entrepreneurs in adulthood, making a difference and impacting the world around them. But there are also days where the two can barely co-exist. The kids repel “the business” like the same poles of a magnet.
It may appear as though I do it all, but in reality I have become very selective about where I spend my time. Boundaries are key. There are only 24 hours in the day, and sleep wastes away 6-8 of them. Therefore, the other 16-18 have to be put to good use and prioritizing the kids, marriage, personal self-care, building my business, and protecting the time when we can all be together and have fun! It isn’t easy, but once you establish your personal priorities it becomes easy to politely decline invitations that do not support the priorities.
When I took the leap into entrepreneurship I had even more on my plate. I worked a full-time job and travelled an hour each way to my office. The first sacrifice was eliminating the hours I spent reading and watching TV. (I was an avid reader, reading 1-2 books a week.) Working and raising a young family, didn’t leave many options of what to give up, and when I gave up TV, I realized I didn’t even miss it. As for the reading, I did miss that, and after a few months I incorporated audio books into my life (solution to every problem!). Without consistent time invested, whatever you are doing is really a hobby, not a business. If I hadn’t blocked out the time to give entrepreneurship and my business a fair shot, I would have failed. I would not have gotten the results I needed to see to keep going.
At the end of the day, I make sure all of the priorities are taken care of, and I often lay my head down at night thinking. “I wished I had gotten _____ done.” What’s most important is the intention is always there to give the best of myself to my family and to my business. It is never 50/50, but neither is any marriage. I enjoy the flexibility of figuring out what percentage of my day is allocated to everything I do, and I only get that flexibility because I own my own digital business
My goal in owning and building a business is to develop residual income for myself and along side others who are invested in doing the same. I don’t think twice about taking the time to coach and mentor others toward their goals, because I see this as an investment toward my larger goal of having a positive impact on others.